Author: Hilary Grossman
Number of Pages: 280
My Rating: 4
Summary from GoodReads.com:
For every girl who wondered if she should love him or dump him.....
For every girl who listened to her heart instead of her friends advice....
For every girl who l wondered if she was wasting her time dating that guy.... meet Hilary....
She had gotten used to dating the commitment-phobic Marc, thirteen years her senior. They had a great relationship--why rush into things? She saw no need to pressure him for marriage, believing that when the time was right, he would propose. But after they had been together for four years, their friends decided to take matters into their own hands, pushing Marc to propose and making Hilary realize how much she really did want to marry the man that she loved. Unfortunately, Marc still wasn't ready--and their friends' meddling in the form of a faux engagement party led to a disastrous New Year's Eve that brought their relationship to an inevitable turning point.
When I was first approached by Hilary Grossman to review this book, I kind of thought it was just going to be another Chick-Lit love story. However, once I actually started reading it, I realized it was a memoir about Hilary's life and her romantic journey with her commitment-phobic boyfriend. This book was a light read while at the same time funny, honest, frustrating, and real.
Hilary shares everything about her relationship with Marc, her boyfriend who was thirteen years older than her but none the wiser. What I appreciated about her story is the fact that she shares all of the ugly parts of her relationship, too, which would be really hard to do when writing about your life. I feel like everyone wants to remember the good parts, especially about relationships, and shies away from the frustrating, mean, and embarrassing (she has a few of those!) stories that might make us or our partner look bad.
She falls in love with Marc pretty quickly, but Hilary realizes he is that kind of man who doesn't say the L-word and who doesn't want to label things or rush into them. She senses their relationship is going nowhere, but her feelings and her love for him outweigh her logic, which at times can be frustrating for the reader! While there were times I wanted to reach through the book and shake her, it made me realize that she was just sharing all of herself, even her mistakes, and that let's be honest, we've all made a few.
I do have to say that there were times that I was slightly confused as the author does a lot of flashbacks about her relationship. I would be reading about one event and then she would jump back to something that happened a month or a year before and then abruptly jump back to the current time. While this wasn't distracting to the point that it ruined the plot, there were a couple of times that I had to go back a few pages before I caught on.
Overall, this is a heartwarming story about a fun, likable, insecure girl who is not only falling in love with a stubborn man, but who is finding herself and learning to love who she is. She has gone through a lot in her life and she isn't afraid to bare it all- the good, the bad, and the ugly. I really enjoyed her comments, viewpoints and writing and I would really like to see what kind of fiction she could create. Hilary provided us with a believable and realistic love story, and I can't wait to see what she comes up with next!